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This too will pass

I really don’t know how and from where to start. After a long time I am going to pen something, we all are aware about what is happening around the world. Everyone is suffering; everyone is lock inside home because it is necessary to save lives of us and our dear ones. No doubt time is very hard; people have no other way to face this crisis. This pandemic has already snatched so many lives; some of them are of our loved ones. Around 213 countries are affected by COVID 19.

We all are watching news channels, we all know how many people are affected, so I will not discuss more about this in figures. I don’t want to spread negativity, let’s discuss some thing that gives us new hope and positivity in this time.

If you are feeling sad, depressed and alone than you should definitely follow my advice –

Guys, life is the biggest gift of God. If we are still alive and healthy, thanks to God for every thing. Thank him for keep us safe from this deadly virus and remember that he is with us at every moment and watching our every step. Nothing in this world is bigger than God. Keep your faith in God. Some where earth is balancing and healing itself. We human always harm our mother earth. We cut the trees for new constructions, papers, ate and killed other animals who also have the right to live on this planet. We humans destroyed our mother earth for excavation of different metals, petroleum and other things. I myself believe that it is all happening just because we harmed and tampered the nature, now it’s healing itself.

Anyway, I am again going off topic, let’s come to the point, I already said that nothing is permanent in this world, not even time. It will definitely change and never be the same. This tough time will too pass after teaching us some good lessons for life. Days will never be like today, things will change and our life style too. We will laugh together once again, we will be able to meet our friends and re-join the old buddies. There is always a hope for good.

If you are getting bored at home than let’s start to work on things that you liked the most but didn’t continue due to your work load and busy schedules like gardening, sketching, reading, cooking, playing your favourite instrument in your balcony or singing and dancing if you love this. You can do meditation, yoga and exercises at home as we know gyms are still close.

Let’s spend some quality time to our family, partner. What happened if cannot go our relative’s home or they cannot come to our place, we have social media, mobiles and video calls facilities, physically we are apart but emotionally we are attached and can connect anytime with our loved ones.  Distance doesn’t make a difference in today’s digital world. We are just one click away from our friends and can share our thoughts at anytime. What we have to do? Just stay indoors and take a step towards happiness. Now you think how to find happiness? It is inside us, I will discuss it in my next blog. One more thing, we you see any person in need around you please help them as you can. This time is hard for everyone. People are struggling for their daily needs, if you are capable to do something you should go for this. Like if you have old neighbours, you can ask them for their grocery shopping or medicines. If you see a bagger, you can provide food to them but never forget the safety guidelines. If you see someone is feeling down or depressed tell them that this time will too pass. Every day gives us new ray of hope. And the day will come when everything will normal just like before. Look at them and just spread a smile with positivity.

If you feel to share something with me, just leave a comment with your name, I will definitely reply on the genuine comments (no promotional comments please). Few of my readers are facing some issues related to notifications by mail. I will try to sort it out as early as possible. Stay safe at indoors. Keep maintaining social distance. Remember hand wash and other hygienes are mandatory to follow. Be healthy.    

Does it matter how you look ?

Normally people attract with looks. If someone is looking good then people think that he or she is intelligent. Why we always compare someone’s intelligence and capabilities with looks?

 It is not mandatory that if someone is looking good then he is also intelligent. I am not saying that you are not intelligent because you look good, off course you are. But here I am talking about those who are intelligent enough but underestimated by their looks. It might be possible that the other one is more intelligent as compare to you but you just ignore them because of their looks.

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Why we don’t give priority to inner beauty? “The beauty of a soul” why we don’t prefer it? Our inner beauty never fades away. It spreads happiness and joy everywhere.

Let’s take an example – you are in a restaurant and you see a beautiful lady sit next behind you, her dressing sense outstanding, She has an eye catching personality. But when she calls a waiter, She speaks with him very rudely and using harsh words while communicating with others. Do you still like her? (If you prefer outer beauty more than inner peace then you will definitely feel attracted. Lol 😀 )

But truly no one likes this kind of personality. Your behaviour with others, the softness of your word is something that makes you splendid. A good personality with right attitude makes difference but if anyone is missing from both of these then you are not perfect. If you have only look, neither good attitude nor inner beauty then trust me no one will gonna love you.

Look, it may be possible that you have different perspective on the same topic, but I am the kind of girl who gives priority to the beauty of soul, to inner peace, to the soft nature of a person and as a human being we must have these qualities according to me.

Here the most important thing is, how you treat the people who are at the lower position from you or how you treat those who are at below from your status, from your level. It says everything about you, which kind of personality do you have or what’s your attitude almost everything. One can know everything about you just through the way you are talking.

Always remember in your mind that nothing is permanent in this world, not your money, not your status, it all fades away with the passage of time, if something is permanent, it’s only your behaviour your attitude by which people will love you and keep you in their mind even after you will no longer in this world, your words, your attitude, your behaviour will remember by others. So always try to be polite with everyone.

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Looks matter, when we talk about dating, relationships or marriages, yes off course it is a life changing decision so everyone wants that he or she gets a guy or girl who is good looking as well as intelligent enough to deal with the practical ground of life after marriage. But it does not mean that if you don’t look good then you will not get a perfect partner. God already made someone in this world for everyone and whatever you will get in life, trust me it’s best for you. Almighty God already plans everything for us. We just have to do our “Karma” and leave everything on God, he will return the best.

Generally we think about others opinion that what people think about us, about our looks.  Why someone else opinion is mandatory for us? Why we think so much about people and their likes and dislikes?  Why we don’t want to show our original side, only because we afraid that, if I show my original side then people won’t accept me. We afraid, because we think, nobody is going to like me after that. If a person wants to post his or her pic on social media then he or she applies so many filters before uploading it. We think that by this way people like us and we get likes. We are losing our originality. Why we don’t accept others as they are.

Look, don’t think too much about community and society. You are beautiful from inside as well as outside. What people think about you, it’s none of your business. Do good always and be good into your perception, never do anything wrong with anyone. Never use harsh words for anyone.

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“Looks” is temporary but the inner beauty of your soul reflects everywhere, at every stage of your life.

Remember few points

  1. Looks does not matter if you are sincere, polite, humble and intelligent.
  2. If you are pretty but you don’t have kindness, knowledge and softness then your beauty is waste.
  3. If you are beautiful and proudy no one will like you.
  4. Think twice before speak anything, no matter you are beautiful or not, your words should make sense in a positive way.
  5. Try to be fit even if you are not beautiful, consciousness about fitness is must for everyone, also it is important for our health.
  6. Wear a smile on your face always, a smile can make a big difference because a smiling face always looks good.
  7. Be confident because it shows that you are beautiful from within. It helps you to look good in all aspects.
  8. Be grateful for everything, it shows your inner strength and peace.
  9. If you want to look good then love yourself first. Nothing is better from self-loved person. (Remember don’t be selfish, here I am talking about “Self – love”)  
  10. Keep your all senses with you always and remember life is for living, for enjoying, for spreading happiness to everyone.

My dear friend, you are truly a pure soul, a beautiful person and a soft hearted, humble personality. You don’t need any kind of validation from anyone regarding your beauty and looks.

How to develop a positive mindset

Dear friends, if you really want to grow in your life and want to get success then you must develop a positive mindset and a positive attitude that leads you to the path where you wanted to go. Almost every one of us has dreams, everyone has some desires, but we don’t know how to get it and the reason is only the wrong attitude, we want so many things from life but we don’t do it in a right way. We all have plans but how many of us actually execute it? And who decide that whatever we planned, is plan according to a good strategy?

One must have a positive attitude towards life, towards his /her goals. If you have a positive mind set then life becomes happiest for you because you always seek for happiness, you find the reasons of happiness. With a positive mind-set you can achieve everything no matter what your dream is, hard work and positive mind set both are parallel to each other. You cannot do hard work without a positive approach towards life. A positive mind set will take you to the way of success.

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The main reason of why we don’t get whatever we want is the negativity inside us. Now you think that we don’t have negativity inside us, ok then tell me, do you feel little bit fear inside you before doing anything? Did you ever feel that if you face failure then what will happen?

I know, your answer is yes, so my dear this is also the type of negativity. Because as we think about ourselves, we become like that, as well as exactly what happens with us that we think. If you think positive then definitely positive happens with us and if we think negative then it happens.

How to develop a positive mind set-

There are some ways by which you can change your way of thinking and develop a positive mind set. First of all always keep one thing in your mind that your daily schedule affects your producibility , it affects your work and your life and it can also help you so much to develop a positive mind set.

Focus on the good things – Always try to figure out something good in everything, in every person because it’s true that everyone has something positive. When you focus on good things, a positive aura develops automatically throughout yourself. Seek for the good things around you and you will see the life from totally different perspective.

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Spend your time with positive people – With whom you are spending your time, is affects you and your way of thinking. When we give our, some portion of time to someone, at that time we gain something from that person, maybe by his conversation, his talk, his behaviour or anything else. But we learn something from that person. So if we spend our time with positive people then surely will get something positive and if we give our time to negative people then they only spread negativity.

Make new friends of positive attitude – Making new friends is a good habit because as much people as we talk, we learn something from all of them and also by making friends we spread joy and also get the same. Friends are necessary for our life. But make new friends wisely. Whenever we have an issue in our life, we share our problem with our friends and if they have positive approach towards life then they will give you the best advice. They will encourage you and they boost up your fighting spirit by which you can face any problem. And if your friends have negative approach then they will scare you about your problem and you will feel low so better make new friends who have positive approach.

Turn your failures into lessons – If you faced failure in your past then turn your past experiences into lessons. Never think how much time you got failed in life always think, what you learn from your mistakes, from your past experiences. Remember my dear, every failure teach you a lesson of your life. If you remember your mistakes as a lesson then you will never do the same mistake again in life. Your past mistakes can be the good teacher for you.

Make a habit of reading something motivational – It is necessary to keep yourself positive. Try to read something good in weekly or daily bases. This habit motivates you time to time, you feel positive after reading something valuable. You feel a positive energy that helps to keep you on, when you read good articles, you grasp so much positivity, you feel that you can achieve what you want, you can achieve your aim, your goals, your dreams.

Try to wake up early – Now you again think how it can develop a positive mind set, then remember, when we were a kid we all heard a rhymes “Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise”. It is absolutely true, when we wake up early in the morning then we all have few more hours in our daily routine, we can do more work, we feel fresh. Waking up in early morning makes us healthy and happy also.

Do some exercise meditation or yoga – Whatever you like to do, you can do it. It makes you fit as well as you feel calmer and relax. You can release your stress as well. It really works; I also use it in my daily routine as a regular basis. You feel more energised after doing yoga, meditation or any exercise. When you feel calm then you think like a boss.

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Start your day with positive vibes – If you believe in God, start your day with a prayer because Morning Prayer is a perfect way to focus your time and attention by seeking God’s plan for the day ahead. Prayer gives you positive vibes and it helps you to keep faith in yourself, in your decisions.

Always be grateful for those who do something for you – Always show gratitude to all those who did good for you, even the smallest thing that someone did for you, pay them gratitude. It makes you unique and a positive person. When you pay gratitude to someone then the receiver feels good and releases a positive feeling about you and you also feel positivity inside you.

Give your helping hand to others – If someone is in need then without any hesitation, offer your helping hand to them. Believe me, when you help someone, you feel great. When you help a needy person, you feel spiritual satisfaction inside you. If you help someone then you will feel happy rest of your day. You can try this. Nothing is good in this world as compare to satisfaction of providing the helping hand to someone in need.

Your word reflects your character

Most of you are already aware about what I am saying. Yes it is true that our word reflects our character. How you talk with others, says everything about you. I see so many people in my life, who shows that they are the great personalities, they try to show-off their achievement but when they start talking, their only aim is to distract you, they always try to belittle you, they simply want to say that they are the best and you are at the lower level and you don’t know anything about society.

They feel that they are the greatest, only they are good and rest of people are worse. I really don’t understand why people behave like this? In this world every person is unique, their personalities, their capabilities, their talents, strength everything is different. There are so many things in this world that one can do but maybe you cannot. And also so many things are there that you can do but others cannot.

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I just wonder whenever I think about it, how easily some people find others mistake and point out them, without realizing that what they are doing with others. Why people expect good behaviour from others without doing good with them.

We all have some people in our life who talks behind our back, who spreads negativity about us, they always search your mistakes, always looking for a reason to make you feel low or to belittle you.

And the great thing is, you already know about their habit, you know very well that so and so person is always says badly about you but you cannot do anything. We want to stop them, we want to say them that their unfavourable talk makes us irritated and hurt a lot but we cannot say directly because sometimes they are our relatives, our neighbour or our colleagues. So we try to maintain our dignity without saying anything.

Your words are a mirror

For those who always spread negativity about others,

My dear, if you spread unfavourable talks and negativity about other people then remember it hurts the one, you aimed about but your words damage your own reputation as well as credibility.

If you always looking for negativity then you easily find it but in this process you make yourself a negative person who always says shit about others. Whatever you say, it shows your own character, your own personality.

Whenever you try to judge or criticise other person unknowingly you give a negative message about yourself.

If you spread positivity then people will love you, they like you as well respect you people will want to listen you and your thoughts but if you spread negativity then no one likes you, people will look at you and remind their selves that you manipulate things, they will start maintaining certain distance from you.

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Some traits of avoiding negative conversation –

  • Never involve in any negative conversation – You should always refuse negative talks whenever you feel someone spread negativity or saying something bad about other, it is better to make a distance from him/her. If you join that person who spreading negativity then he or she will make you believe in their talk and literary you will not realize how you join them. It is human tendency that people enjoy while talking about others or talking about others fault. We don’t want to join that conversation intentionally but unknowingly it happens.
  • Never be a part of a group who talks poorly about others – Keep the distance from the group of people who always talks about others mistake and fault. Remember if you spend most of your time with toxic people then you also become toxic person because you cannot learn a good thing with bad people. Refuse yourself from joining these kinds of group who always spread negative vibes.
  • Avoid making unflattering comments about others – Never use harsh words about anyone. If someone doing bad with you then he will face their own “Karma” but you are a pure soul so never say something uncomplimentary about others. Whenever you are going to say anything, use your kindness, it will never make you regret.
  • Develop a positive mind-set – Almost in my every post, I always mention about positive attitude because it’s a key of happy and satisfy life. Your positive mind develop a positive attitude inside you and it will never allow you to do something wrong in your life. A positive mind – set is necessary for everyone. A positive person will never say anything bad about anyone.

If you want to be a good person who has nice reputation and respected by everyone then you should remember these things, you should remember that whatever you are going to say, it will reflects your character instantly. Your words make your image in front of your audience. And your words make your audience judgemental about you. If you spread positivity then you will get back good feedback and it makes you a reputational and respected person.

Be the best version of yourself

It sounds good when someone says “Be the best version of yourself” but what is the meaning of this statement?

Did you ever realize that you can do something better from what you are doing in your present life?

Did you ever feel that you can achieve more or perform better from today?

Did you ever recognise your self-worth?

Do you know everything about your capabilities?

I am saying all these things because it helps you to be the best version of yourself.

As a human being we can do a lot of things at the same time and achieve everything what we want but, are we getting all the things that we want? Everyone has limitless potential inside and every person can do much better, only if they try hard for the things and focus on efforts.

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What is the meaning of “To be the best version of you”?

The meaning of this statement is “to move forward in your life towards success from where you are, to explore yourself, to discover yourself and your capabilities and to take out your hidden talent in the field of your interest”. In other words, we can say “One must leave their comfort zone and recognise their inner strength for doing thing that he or she wants from life”.

You must explore yourself because when you explore, you realize that there are so many things in this world that you can do. You should always open to learn new things in life. Don’t think that you know everything because there is always a room for improvement in every person. When you learn new things and skills, you improve yourself. And these improvements make you a better version of yourself.

You can take any example of successful person like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckarberg, Late A.P.J. Abdul Kalam Sir, Oprah Winfrey and so many people who got success in their lives just because they are good learner, they keep improving their selves. They never stop at one place; they always try to be the best one in their field.

When you will go through from their life stories then you will find what they faced in their lives, how they improved their selves and how they overcame from obstacles of their lives.

If you want to be a successful person then you have to do hard work. There is no shortcut for success.

A great quote said by Norman Schwarzkopf “The more you sweat in peace, the less you bleed in war”. It is an inspirational and deep thought; you must remember these words in mind.

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Things you should do to be the best version of yourself –

  1. Keep all the negatives out from you – If you want to be the best version of yourself then you should be learn to trust on yourself and your capabilities. Never doubt on yourself, just eliminate all the negative energy from you because your actions depend on your thoughts. If you think negative then negative surely happens with you. So always stay positive. Eliminate your all the negative thoughts within you.
  • Find out your talent –You should always concentrate on what is good about you, and focus a lot of your energy on it. Spend some time to identify your talent. You must have the spark within you for the particular thing in which you are good enough and interested to focus on it. Find out the work you enjoy the most, which trigger you to give your best. Keep focusing, keep concentrating on it, and with the passage of time you will realize that you are a master of that work. Remember, you are never going to be satisfied unless you know in what you are good. So work on it.
  • Make a schedule for your priority based work – It will definitely help you to be the better version of yourself. Make a schedule for yourself, decide your priority, assign your priorities to your “to do list”, works that you want to be finished in a given time period. Remind yourself that you should complete your priority based task in a fixed time limit. But don’t take too much pressure of it (I used “remind” word here only for your own realization that you have completed your work but it does not mean that you take stress about it. I clearly mention here, fixed your priority first, after that try to complete your work in fixed time duration, if you couldn’t finished it, no problem, every day is a new chance, you can do it next day. Don’t take stress about it.)
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  • Implement some healthy habits in your daily routine – It is very necessary to feel fresh and strengthen every day. Choose 2 – 3 good habits which you like to do in your daily life and follow this routine for your entire year. For example – Exercise, yoga, meditation, writing, reading, playing with kids, or spend  some quality time with your family, whatever you love, do it on the daily bases. And take out some time from your busy schedule and do it your hobbies. It will keep you fresh and relax in rest of time. And you feel more energised after doing that. It will also help you to release your work pressure.
  • Learn from your past mistake – Always keep the lessons in your mind which you learned from your past mistakes. It will also help you to be the best version of yourself. And also you can consume your time if you remember about your mistakes and their lessons then you will never do the same mistake again, it saves your time from the future losses.
  • Stay Happy and healthy – Dear friends, remember one thing in your mind, if you are not happy with your present life then you cannot find your better version. One must have happy and healthy mind before doing anything good in life. You should be happy always because a happy and healthy person can achieve anything. Find the small reasons to be happy, and keep yourself healthy. A happy and healthy life is the first and foremost key point of success.

This will definitely help you to be the best version of yourself.

Consequences of Gossip

Consequences of Gossip

Do you feel bad when people gossip about you? In today’s world everyone is ready for giving comments and unwanted suggestions or their opinions. This is the habit of some people that they always try to pull down someone.

We all use social media, when we see a picture of someone, our virtual commenter turn on, which is in our mind, it starts giving comment that “wow, she is pretty”, “oh, she is looking ugly” or “what kind of dress it is” “what’s wrong with her makeup” etc. etc. Even you are not going to type your comment on that particular picture but your mind start itself to give comment.

Normally people comment on those whom, they cannot compete with. And that is the basic reason of their unwanted gossip because they are not able to achieve at your level that is why they try to pull you down or belittle you. They don’t like you because their ego doesn’t allow them to do this.

People, who look upward in their lives, don’t get affect by unwanted gossips or comments. But normally this kind of statements hurt a lot to the one; you gave your statement only if he or she knows what you think about them.

Don’t feel afraid when people gossip about you because you are above from their level. And if you are gossiping about anyone, always remember you are giving your energy to that person and you pull yourself down from your level.

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Why people gossip about someone

Do you ever wonder why people gossiping about someone? Because their ego level is so high, they think that they know everything, they always act like they are the best but the reality is, they cannot reach your level they cannot achieve what you have so they try to pull you back because it takes a lot of effort to achieve a higher level and they don’t have that much courage to get success in their life so they always gossips about others.

They always keep commenting about others, their friends, relatives and family member. Even sometimes we also see this type of people in our relatives or in our friends list, they love gossips whenever you meet them, they start talking about others life, they never focus on the conversation about their family or any current or general issues, they just try to show that how is the life of others or how other’s behaviour or anything that take you to the negative perspective.

These types of people try to bring someone down by making them look bad in the eyes of others. Gossiping is one way of disrespecting others without knowing them properly. One, who always gossips about others, spreads only negativity. And if we also join them in their nonsense talk, then we are equally guilty.

At our workplace, here are also few people always available to start gossiping about other. What happen in someone’s personal life? How much appraisal he or she got? How he works, his relations with boss or anything about related to someone’s life. These people always ready to make gossips, ready to frustrate you at any time. So better, be aware of that people, don’t think too much about them

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How to stop yourself from gossiping about others

If you want to be successful in life then always remember your energy is not supposed to go outwards, it has to go always inwards.

Don’t waste your time in gossiping about others; always utilize your time to improve yourself because this is the right way to achieve your goals.

 If you are gossiping about someone then remember you are just wasting your energy and your valuable time that never come back again, as well as you are spreading lies, disrespect and hate at the same time and all this things makes you more negative person nothing else.

This is totally your loss, by gossiping about someone you just inferior your own image, your own personality.

Remember no one is perfect, if you don’t like someone then this is totally your choice, your problem but it does not mean that you have a right to talk about the one you hate, or to disrespect that person you hate, you cannot spread lies about someone.

Everyone has that habit of gossiping. But what kind of gossip you are spreading, it is matter. If you are talking something positive about someone or you are truthful with your statement then, gossiping is not bad in that case.

 After all everyone has the right to share their point of you but if you are negatively represent someone just because of your ego and on the bases of your dislikes then gossiping is not tolerated in that case. So better live your own life happily and keep your nose out from other’s personal life.

Stop worrying about others opinion

We are human beings and we are affected by what people think of us. We live in the world where social life is important as well as personal life. Other’s opinion is really valuable or not, it totally depends on the context and the situation you are facing. What other people think about you is their ability to judge a person. What actually matters is how their thinking affects you and your life.

If you always waste your time and energy to care about what other people think about you then you would be mentally drain yourself. Whatever you heard from people about you or whatever said to you by someone, you just don’t need to take anything seriously unless you really think, it is worth considering. No matter how hard you try for something, you can never satisfy people, so better ignore them.

No one can be good for all at each and every time. If whatever you are doing is totally personal and related to you, your friends and family are also in your support then what others think about you is none of your business. “Opinions” are useful when it comes from right people. If your family members your friends, your well-wisher, and the people who are important in your life, gives you any opinion then it will be helpful for you to improve yourself. Never ignore the opinion of your loved ones.

If you are happy with what you have, doing the right things with right way and being helpful person and living up to your potential then, who the hell cares? If you think too much about what people think about you then you push yourself to receive the approval of others, but eventually what is important to you? You just need “Your own approval”, which makes you a happy person.

Let’s take an example, suppose you are at your workplace, what your boss thinking about you is important to you but at the same place few people who are jealous of you and your work, you cannot prevent them thinking negative of you, would you really care what they think ? I guess, your answer is no.

Take one another example, what your friends, family member and your dear one’s opinion about you, it’s matter to you but if someone who does not like you, gives a negative statement or opinion about you then it won’t matter to you.  

Your image and reputation are not damaged by what other people think of you, unless you are actually doing something wrong. One can always try to maintain their reputation. We all have some people in our life, who are trouble maker, just avoid those petty people. Who always try to defeat you? One who always listens to other people, and keep following others advise and want to make everyone’s happy, faces so many problems in his life. So better if you are right at your place then only listen to your inner voice, ignore people talk.

The day you learn to be at peace with yourself, with your decisions, when you will do that you wanted to do, is the day when you will be the happiest person of the world. Half of our worries and decisions are influenced by what people think about us. Remember, people who don’t like you and your work, will always criticize you.

You should also be aware of general society standards like, dressing, how to act in public, how to carry yourself, your posture, your walk, showering etc. because people either consciously or unconsciously notice this thing. And these things definitely affect you.

You should always remember few points…

  • Nobody knows you better than yourself. So always be true to yourself.
  • The decisions of our lives must always be our own. Never give someone the right to rule over you.
  • Your loved one’s perception may help you to see yourself in a new light. So always listen to them.
  • You must have your own opinions and views.
  • You must know who are going to support you and who opposes.
  • Always remember what is important to you.
  • Clear the negativity from your life.
  • Don’t think too much about other’s opinion, when they are not important to you.
  • Stay positive.
  • Be really conscious about of who you surrounded yourself with.

Just act, don’t react

Most of our problems can be resolved if we stop ourselves from giving reaction on that to toxic people. Normally, people take less action and react more on things. Even a small issue can be turned into big because of wrong reactions. Is it really necessary to react on every single thing or statement? If the situation is in our favour then we act calmly or we can say that our mind, think twice before saying anything. People often respond according to their circumstances. Action is what that you take for doing something but reaction is something that makes you miserable. Generally, reaction comes quick, without much thought and makes you tense and aggressive. It pushes you out from your comfort zone, even sometimes you forced to react but most of the time you have freedom to take actions. It all depends on how you respond in different situations.

It is a human tendency, if someone gives his feedback to us then, we trust on their statement. If the feedback is positive then we feel happy and if they said something negative then we give quick reaction on that. We try to prove that we are right at our place. Even sometimes we get angry, because of their opinion we destroy our mood, we feel disturb and it affect our daily routine. It affects the tasks that are performed by us. In today’s world most of the people have judgemental nature. They are ready to make their judgemental statement about something or someone. They pass it to other people, they never mentioned here that, this is just their opinion, they put a surety stamp on their statement to prove that they are right. And what we do? We just hear something from other people and start getting in tense. It won’t affect them and their lives. It affects us, our producebility, our capability and ultimately our lives. So better think less and perform more.

I am giving you few examples, by which you can easily connect yourself from my words,

 If someone said that “oh you have a chubby face & you are so cute” then you take it in a positive manner but at the same time if someone said that “oh you are fatty & not in shape” then you start getting depressed and also you feel little bit anger inside you.

Or take one another example if you are good in your work, someone came to you and said that “you are doing your work in a great way” then you take it positively because it’s a positive statement about you but if someone comes to you and say that this is not the right way or he /she can do this work better than you, or you can do your work better than this, then what you feel? You will definitely give your response. You try to convince them about your work and by this you are just wasting your time because my dear, I assured you, no matter how much you explain about your work, if they disagree with your work in starting then they never believe in you. They simply wanted to distract you from your work and they did it by their words.

We should have a control over our reactions. Never give quick reaction on anything because it’s just upset you, sometimes silence is also an answer to your obstructer.

People, who try to bring you down or belittle you, will never harm you when you stop yourself from reacting on their non-sense gossips. Remember, it is your life, your way so decision must be yours. Never allow anyone to disrespect you or to take decisions regarding yourself. Your immediate reactions makes you angry and upset, it does not make anything better. Even sometimes, it worsens your relationships. It is better to give respond, if you feel your anger reactions then pause yourself for a second, take a breath and consider the situation.

Here are few strategies by which you can stop yourself from reaction –

Always prefer actions – Constantly choosing to act instead of reacts, is the only way to stay calm and live happily. And when you act, you don’t have time for regrets, you do more stuff. So give preference to actions instead of reaction.

Learn to control your emotions- When your emotions are under control then it will automatic stop yourself from giving reactions. Try to learn it.

Stay away from the negativity – Remember, reaction is the negative term, which comes from negativity and aggressive behaviour. Stay away from the source of negativity within you. Think positive, stay positive.

Always respond instead of reaction – Before reaction, pause yourself for seconds, take long breathe, and let the initial emotions pass. And you will see how you respond differently on any particular situation.

Your Actions make you everything

Everyone has a dream, everyone wants to fulfil his or her desire, everyone wants success in life but only few are there who achieve it. And this is because many of us only think about it, no one want to take actions. Nothing good happens in life if you sit ideal and living in your dream world. Your action makes you everything. If you want to do something in your life then you should be take action for what you want, for your desire. No one can achieve something in life without doing anything. There are only two types of people in this world, successful people and unsuccessful people, and the basic difference in between them is just the actions that they took in their lives.

Action is steps that you continuously take to achieve your goal, action is what that takes you from where you are to where you want to go, it is something that improve yourself and take you to headway. Your action is something that realized you the future can be better than the present.

If you want to migrate your dreams into reality then you should be take required actions. Remember the path which takes you towards success is not easy, it demands your time, your hard work, your willingness, your dedication, actions and sometime your sacrifice too. Keep my words in your mind always, give importance only to those who encourage you, who motivates you, and remind you about your dreams, the one who boost you up with positivity and energy.

Stay away from those who pull you down or spread negativity around you, the one who discourage and demotivate you. They are the people who don’t want to do anything better in their life and just want to bring you on their level. Let them go from your life. If you have a bitter past experience then just remember it like a lesson.

If you truly want to achieve something in life then set a goal, do analysis which actions you require, promise to yourself that you will achieve your dream at the cost of your hard work, your time and never stop yourself until you achieve it.

Start to take actions every day; don’t waste your valuable time only in dreaming. No one can do this for you, you are the only one who makes your dream comes true. Only talking about what you want is a different thing, and taking actions on a practical ground to make things happen according to you, is totally different thing. So speak less and perform more.

Look, if you want success in your life then you have to set the priority of everything. What comes to you first and what comes last, only you can decide. Set a time period for yourself, and make a resolution that you have complete this task in specific time. It helps you to make your concentration only on one specified task, and you will give your best. Without actions life is nothing.  

Dear friends, it doesn’t matter from where you belong, what you are, what you do for living, what you did in your past; there is always a room inside you for development.  At any stage of life, you can bring yourself at another level. If something require for this, only your actions.

Always open yourself to learn new things, keep growing. Never stop yourself from learning new things. Acquire as much knowledge as you have. If you want then you can beat the world. You are strong enough to achieve everything that you want from life, just take right actions. You should be analysis every possibility of the things that you are going to do. Always make plans before doing anything because a well organize task has more possibility of success.

Life is too short to put up with fools

Life is too short to put up with fools

Yes, I totally mean it. This world is totally amazing place. Here we meet several people, some ofthem are our good friends but some are here only to make us feel ignominious. We all deal with that types of people, they are everywhere, in your workplace, your neighbourhoods and in your relations. Fools take away your joy from you. We all have some people in our life who are always the reason of our problems or irritations. They are the people who are always tries to demean you. Whenever you involve in any conversation with them, they always show that they know everything, they are right at their place and you are wrong. They always put you down.
If you want to keep focused on moving forwards on your way towards your goal, it’s better to ignore them and their talk because they only want to distract you from your aim, they want to demotivate you and just bring you down to their level. So better, don’t give them importance.
Even every one of us surrounded by some people who are always acting like an intelligent person but truly they are fool in our perspective. These types of people never encourage you with the things that you have or that you are doing. On a practical ground of life, we have to deal with them, even sometime we feel frustrated, for example if you are doing something good that is really appreciable, but they come to you to realize that you are wrong or it’s a wrong method of doing that particular work.
Even they find something bad in your healthy conversation. These people always try to manipulate the things or the conversations which they had with you. And because of their behaviour we feel irritated and we give them reactions. They just want to annoy us and draw us into a battle. Normally what we do, we also involve in the nonsense conversation with them because we feel confused, we try to explain them that they should change their behaviour or their way of thinking but our opinion doesn’t matter to them and we simply waste our energy and time on them.
 I am giving you a following trait by which you can identify the fools –

·         Fools believe that they are always right and whatever you are saying is just nonsense.
·         They always start an argument and try to pull you in that.
·         While involving in an argument they start shouting to prove that they are right.
·         They concentrate only on their points, even they don’t want to listen about your opinion
·         They always talk behind your back, someone else tell you that the particular person was saying so and so about you.
·         They always try to show that they are more capable as compare to you.
·         They shows that their qualification is worth and you just have theoretical you don’t know practically about things
·         They are short tempered. They lose their calmness within a minute.
·         If someone tells them to keep their nose out from any matter, they don’t listen.
·         They always try to disturb other’s personal life.
·         They know that you or your loved one don’t give them footage but they continuously try to connect with you just to create disturbance in your life
·         They are careless, these types of person only think about themselves, only about their priorities.
Fools are problematic. They destroy their own lives as well as ours too. So it is better to stay away from them.
But here I mentioned some ways by which you can easily deal with them without any tension.
1.       Never give them importance – Neither give importance to them nor their talk. Look, fools are just a part of our life, just like a daily use thing. Don’t give them importance in your life. 
2.       Try to deny their presence– It is the best way to stay away from them. Just neglect them and their presence. Feel like they are not around you.
3.       Never involve in any argument with them – Argument with a fool is totally pointless. They never agree with you, so better keep quite yourself. Or suggesting the best way, whenever you feel that you are going to involve in an argument with them, stop yourself here and tell them “They are right”.
4.       Don’t stretch any topic with them – Never escalate the conversation with fool. You can’t control other’s nature or behaviour but you can control yourself. So better, deescalate your conversation with them.