Most of our problems can be resolved if we stop ourselves from giving reaction on that to toxic people. Normally, people take less action and react more on things. Even a small issue can be turned into big because of wrong reactions. Is it really necessary to react on every single thing or statement? If the situation is in our favour then we act calmly or we can say that our mind, think twice before saying anything. People often respond according to their circumstances. Action is what that you take for doing something but reaction is something that makes you miserable. Generally, reaction comes quick, without much thought and makes you tense and aggressive. It pushes you out from your comfort zone, even sometimes you forced to react but most of the time you have freedom to take actions. It all depends on how you respond in different situations.
It is a human tendency, if someone gives his feedback to us then, we trust on their statement. If the feedback is positive then we feel happy and if they said something negative then we give quick reaction on that. We try to prove that we are right at our place. Even sometimes we get angry, because of their opinion we destroy our mood, we feel disturb and it affect our daily routine. It affects the tasks that are performed by us. In today’s world most of the people have judgemental nature. They are ready to make their judgemental statement about something or someone. They pass it to other people, they never mentioned here that, this is just their opinion, they put a surety stamp on their statement to prove that they are right. And what we do? We just hear something from other people and start getting in tense. It won’t affect them and their lives. It affects us, our producebility, our capability and ultimately our lives. So better think less and perform more.
I am giving you few examples, by which you can easily connect yourself from my words,
If someone said that “oh you have a chubby face & you are so cute” then you take it in a positive manner but at the same time if someone said that “oh you are fatty & not in shape” then you start getting depressed and also you feel little bit anger inside you.
Or take one another example if you are good in your work, someone came to you and said that “you are doing your work in a great way” then you take it positively because it’s a positive statement about you but if someone comes to you and say that this is not the right way or he /she can do this work better than you, or you can do your work better than this, then what you feel? You will definitely give your response. You try to convince them about your work and by this you are just wasting your time because my dear, I assured you, no matter how much you explain about your work, if they disagree with your work in starting then they never believe in you. They simply wanted to distract you from your work and they did it by their words.
We should have a control over our reactions. Never give quick reaction on anything because it’s just upset you, sometimes silence is also an answer to your obstructer.
People, who try to bring you down or belittle you, will never harm you when you stop yourself from reacting on their non-sense gossips. Remember, it is your life, your way so decision must be yours. Never allow anyone to disrespect you or to take decisions regarding yourself. Your immediate reactions makes you angry and upset, it does not make anything better. Even sometimes, it worsens your relationships. It is better to give respond, if you feel your anger reactions then pause yourself for a second, take a breath and consider the situation.
Here are few strategies by which you can stop yourself from reaction –
Always prefer actions – Constantly choosing to act instead of reacts, is the only way to stay calm and live happily. And when you act, you don’t have time for regrets, you do more stuff. So give preference to actions instead of reaction.
Learn to control your emotions- When your emotions are under control then it will automatic stop yourself from giving reactions. Try to learn it.
Stay away from the negativity – Remember, reaction is the negative term, which comes from negativity and aggressive behaviour. Stay away from the source of negativity within you. Think positive, stay positive.
Always respond instead of reaction – Before reaction, pause yourself for seconds, take long breathe, and let the initial emotions pass. And you will see how you respond differently on any particular situation.