We are human beings and we are affected by what people think of us. We live in the world where social life is important as well as personal life. Other’s opinion is really valuable or not, it totally depends on the context and the situation you are facing. What other people think about you is their ability to judge a person. What actually matters is how their thinking affects you and your life.
If you always waste your time and energy to care about what other people think about you then you would be mentally drain yourself. Whatever you heard from people about you or whatever said to you by someone, you just don’t need to take anything seriously unless you really think, it is worth considering. No matter how hard you try for something, you can never satisfy people, so better ignore them.
No one can be good for all at each and every time. If whatever you are doing is totally personal and related to you, your friends and family are also in your support then what others think about you is none of your business. “Opinions” are useful when it comes from right people. If your family members your friends, your well-wisher, and the people who are important in your life, gives you any opinion then it will be helpful for you to improve yourself. Never ignore the opinion of your loved ones.
If you are happy with what you have, doing the right things with right way and being helpful person and living up to your potential then, who the hell cares? If you think too much about what people think about you then you push yourself to receive the approval of others, but eventually what is important to you? You just need “Your own approval”, which makes you a happy person.
Let’s take an example, suppose you are at your workplace, what your boss thinking about you is important to you but at the same place few people who are jealous of you and your work, you cannot prevent them thinking negative of you, would you really care what they think ? I guess, your answer is no.
Take one another example, what your friends, family member and your dear one’s opinion about you, it’s matter to you but if someone who does not like you, gives a negative statement or opinion about you then it won’t matter to you.
Your image and reputation are not damaged by what other people think of you, unless you are actually doing something wrong. One can always try to maintain their reputation. We all have some people in our life, who are trouble maker, just avoid those petty people. Who always try to defeat you? One who always listens to other people, and keep following others advise and want to make everyone’s happy, faces so many problems in his life. So better if you are right at your place then only listen to your inner voice, ignore people talk.
The day you learn to be at peace with yourself, with your decisions, when you will do that you wanted to do, is the day when you will be the happiest person of the world. Half of our worries and decisions are influenced by what people think about us. Remember, people who don’t like you and your work, will always criticize you.
You should also be aware of general society standards like, dressing, how to act in public, how to carry yourself, your posture, your walk, showering etc. because people either consciously or unconsciously notice this thing. And these things definitely affect you.
You should always remember few points…
- Nobody knows you better than yourself. So always be true to yourself.
- The decisions of our lives must always be our own. Never give someone the right to rule over you.
- Your loved one’s perception may help you to see yourself in a new light. So always listen to them.
- You must have your own opinions and views.
- You must know who are going to support you and who opposes.
- Always remember what is important to you.
- Clear the negativity from your life.
- Don’t think too much about other’s opinion, when they are not important to you.
- Stay positive.
- Be really conscious about of who you surrounded yourself with.