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Does it matter how you look ?

Normally people attract with looks. If someone is looking good then people think that he or she is intelligent. Why we always compare someone’s intelligence and capabilities with looks?

 It is not mandatory that if someone is looking good then he is also intelligent. I am not saying that you are not intelligent because you look good, off course you are. But here I am talking about those who are intelligent enough but underestimated by their looks. It might be possible that the other one is more intelligent as compare to you but you just ignore them because of their looks.

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Why we don’t give priority to inner beauty? “The beauty of a soul” why we don’t prefer it? Our inner beauty never fades away. It spreads happiness and joy everywhere.

Let’s take an example – you are in a restaurant and you see a beautiful lady sit next behind you, her dressing sense outstanding, She has an eye catching personality. But when she calls a waiter, She speaks with him very rudely and using harsh words while communicating with others. Do you still like her? (If you prefer outer beauty more than inner peace then you will definitely feel attracted. Lol 😀 )

But truly no one likes this kind of personality. Your behaviour with others, the softness of your word is something that makes you splendid. A good personality with right attitude makes difference but if anyone is missing from both of these then you are not perfect. If you have only look, neither good attitude nor inner beauty then trust me no one will gonna love you.

Look, it may be possible that you have different perspective on the same topic, but I am the kind of girl who gives priority to the beauty of soul, to inner peace, to the soft nature of a person and as a human being we must have these qualities according to me.

Here the most important thing is, how you treat the people who are at the lower position from you or how you treat those who are at below from your status, from your level. It says everything about you, which kind of personality do you have or what’s your attitude almost everything. One can know everything about you just through the way you are talking.

Always remember in your mind that nothing is permanent in this world, not your money, not your status, it all fades away with the passage of time, if something is permanent, it’s only your behaviour your attitude by which people will love you and keep you in their mind even after you will no longer in this world, your words, your attitude, your behaviour will remember by others. So always try to be polite with everyone.

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Looks matter, when we talk about dating, relationships or marriages, yes off course it is a life changing decision so everyone wants that he or she gets a guy or girl who is good looking as well as intelligent enough to deal with the practical ground of life after marriage. But it does not mean that if you don’t look good then you will not get a perfect partner. God already made someone in this world for everyone and whatever you will get in life, trust me it’s best for you. Almighty God already plans everything for us. We just have to do our “Karma” and leave everything on God, he will return the best.

Generally we think about others opinion that what people think about us, about our looks.  Why someone else opinion is mandatory for us? Why we think so much about people and their likes and dislikes?  Why we don’t want to show our original side, only because we afraid that, if I show my original side then people won’t accept me. We afraid, because we think, nobody is going to like me after that. If a person wants to post his or her pic on social media then he or she applies so many filters before uploading it. We think that by this way people like us and we get likes. We are losing our originality. Why we don’t accept others as they are.

Look, don’t think too much about community and society. You are beautiful from inside as well as outside. What people think about you, it’s none of your business. Do good always and be good into your perception, never do anything wrong with anyone. Never use harsh words for anyone.

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“Looks” is temporary but the inner beauty of your soul reflects everywhere, at every stage of your life.

Remember few points

  1. Looks does not matter if you are sincere, polite, humble and intelligent.
  2. If you are pretty but you don’t have kindness, knowledge and softness then your beauty is waste.
  3. If you are beautiful and proudy no one will like you.
  4. Think twice before speak anything, no matter you are beautiful or not, your words should make sense in a positive way.
  5. Try to be fit even if you are not beautiful, consciousness about fitness is must for everyone, also it is important for our health.
  6. Wear a smile on your face always, a smile can make a big difference because a smiling face always looks good.
  7. Be confident because it shows that you are beautiful from within. It helps you to look good in all aspects.
  8. Be grateful for everything, it shows your inner strength and peace.
  9. If you want to look good then love yourself first. Nothing is better from self-loved person. (Remember don’t be selfish, here I am talking about “Self – love”)  
  10. Keep your all senses with you always and remember life is for living, for enjoying, for spreading happiness to everyone.

My dear friend, you are truly a pure soul, a beautiful person and a soft hearted, humble personality. You don’t need any kind of validation from anyone regarding your beauty and looks.

How to develop a positive mindset

Dear friends, if you really want to grow in your life and want to get success then you must develop a positive mindset and a positive attitude that leads you to the path where you wanted to go. Almost every one of us has dreams, everyone has some desires, but we don’t know how to get it and the reason is only the wrong attitude, we want so many things from life but we don’t do it in a right way. We all have plans but how many of us actually execute it? And who decide that whatever we planned, is plan according to a good strategy?

One must have a positive attitude towards life, towards his /her goals. If you have a positive mind set then life becomes happiest for you because you always seek for happiness, you find the reasons of happiness. With a positive mind-set you can achieve everything no matter what your dream is, hard work and positive mind set both are parallel to each other. You cannot do hard work without a positive approach towards life. A positive mind set will take you to the way of success.

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The main reason of why we don’t get whatever we want is the negativity inside us. Now you think that we don’t have negativity inside us, ok then tell me, do you feel little bit fear inside you before doing anything? Did you ever feel that if you face failure then what will happen?

I know, your answer is yes, so my dear this is also the type of negativity. Because as we think about ourselves, we become like that, as well as exactly what happens with us that we think. If you think positive then definitely positive happens with us and if we think negative then it happens.

How to develop a positive mind set-

There are some ways by which you can change your way of thinking and develop a positive mind set. First of all always keep one thing in your mind that your daily schedule affects your producibility , it affects your work and your life and it can also help you so much to develop a positive mind set.

Focus on the good things – Always try to figure out something good in everything, in every person because it’s true that everyone has something positive. When you focus on good things, a positive aura develops automatically throughout yourself. Seek for the good things around you and you will see the life from totally different perspective.

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Spend your time with positive people – With whom you are spending your time, is affects you and your way of thinking. When we give our, some portion of time to someone, at that time we gain something from that person, maybe by his conversation, his talk, his behaviour or anything else. But we learn something from that person. So if we spend our time with positive people then surely will get something positive and if we give our time to negative people then they only spread negativity.

Make new friends of positive attitude – Making new friends is a good habit because as much people as we talk, we learn something from all of them and also by making friends we spread joy and also get the same. Friends are necessary for our life. But make new friends wisely. Whenever we have an issue in our life, we share our problem with our friends and if they have positive approach towards life then they will give you the best advice. They will encourage you and they boost up your fighting spirit by which you can face any problem. And if your friends have negative approach then they will scare you about your problem and you will feel low so better make new friends who have positive approach.

Turn your failures into lessons – If you faced failure in your past then turn your past experiences into lessons. Never think how much time you got failed in life always think, what you learn from your mistakes, from your past experiences. Remember my dear, every failure teach you a lesson of your life. If you remember your mistakes as a lesson then you will never do the same mistake again in life. Your past mistakes can be the good teacher for you.

Make a habit of reading something motivational – It is necessary to keep yourself positive. Try to read something good in weekly or daily bases. This habit motivates you time to time, you feel positive after reading something valuable. You feel a positive energy that helps to keep you on, when you read good articles, you grasp so much positivity, you feel that you can achieve what you want, you can achieve your aim, your goals, your dreams.

Try to wake up early – Now you again think how it can develop a positive mind set, then remember, when we were a kid we all heard a rhymes “Early to bed and early to rise, makes a man healthy, wealthy and wise”. It is absolutely true, when we wake up early in the morning then we all have few more hours in our daily routine, we can do more work, we feel fresh. Waking up in early morning makes us healthy and happy also.

Do some exercise meditation or yoga – Whatever you like to do, you can do it. It makes you fit as well as you feel calmer and relax. You can release your stress as well. It really works; I also use it in my daily routine as a regular basis. You feel more energised after doing yoga, meditation or any exercise. When you feel calm then you think like a boss.

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Start your day with positive vibes – If you believe in God, start your day with a prayer because Morning Prayer is a perfect way to focus your time and attention by seeking God’s plan for the day ahead. Prayer gives you positive vibes and it helps you to keep faith in yourself, in your decisions.

Always be grateful for those who do something for you – Always show gratitude to all those who did good for you, even the smallest thing that someone did for you, pay them gratitude. It makes you unique and a positive person. When you pay gratitude to someone then the receiver feels good and releases a positive feeling about you and you also feel positivity inside you.

Give your helping hand to others – If someone is in need then without any hesitation, offer your helping hand to them. Believe me, when you help someone, you feel great. When you help a needy person, you feel spiritual satisfaction inside you. If you help someone then you will feel happy rest of your day. You can try this. Nothing is good in this world as compare to satisfaction of providing the helping hand to someone in need.

Your word reflects your character

Most of you are already aware about what I am saying. Yes it is true that our word reflects our character. How you talk with others, says everything about you. I see so many people in my life, who shows that they are the great personalities, they try to show-off their achievement but when they start talking, their only aim is to distract you, they always try to belittle you, they simply want to say that they are the best and you are at the lower level and you don’t know anything about society.

They feel that they are the greatest, only they are good and rest of people are worse. I really don’t understand why people behave like this? In this world every person is unique, their personalities, their capabilities, their talents, strength everything is different. There are so many things in this world that one can do but maybe you cannot. And also so many things are there that you can do but others cannot.

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I just wonder whenever I think about it, how easily some people find others mistake and point out them, without realizing that what they are doing with others. Why people expect good behaviour from others without doing good with them.

We all have some people in our life who talks behind our back, who spreads negativity about us, they always search your mistakes, always looking for a reason to make you feel low or to belittle you.

And the great thing is, you already know about their habit, you know very well that so and so person is always says badly about you but you cannot do anything. We want to stop them, we want to say them that their unfavourable talk makes us irritated and hurt a lot but we cannot say directly because sometimes they are our relatives, our neighbour or our colleagues. So we try to maintain our dignity without saying anything.

Your words are a mirror

For those who always spread negativity about others,

My dear, if you spread unfavourable talks and negativity about other people then remember it hurts the one, you aimed about but your words damage your own reputation as well as credibility.

If you always looking for negativity then you easily find it but in this process you make yourself a negative person who always says shit about others. Whatever you say, it shows your own character, your own personality.

Whenever you try to judge or criticise other person unknowingly you give a negative message about yourself.

If you spread positivity then people will love you, they like you as well respect you people will want to listen you and your thoughts but if you spread negativity then no one likes you, people will look at you and remind their selves that you manipulate things, they will start maintaining certain distance from you.

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Some traits of avoiding negative conversation –

  • Never involve in any negative conversation – You should always refuse negative talks whenever you feel someone spread negativity or saying something bad about other, it is better to make a distance from him/her. If you join that person who spreading negativity then he or she will make you believe in their talk and literary you will not realize how you join them. It is human tendency that people enjoy while talking about others or talking about others fault. We don’t want to join that conversation intentionally but unknowingly it happens.
  • Never be a part of a group who talks poorly about others – Keep the distance from the group of people who always talks about others mistake and fault. Remember if you spend most of your time with toxic people then you also become toxic person because you cannot learn a good thing with bad people. Refuse yourself from joining these kinds of group who always spread negative vibes.
  • Avoid making unflattering comments about others – Never use harsh words about anyone. If someone doing bad with you then he will face their own “Karma” but you are a pure soul so never say something uncomplimentary about others. Whenever you are going to say anything, use your kindness, it will never make you regret.
  • Develop a positive mind-set – Almost in my every post, I always mention about positive attitude because it’s a key of happy and satisfy life. Your positive mind develop a positive attitude inside you and it will never allow you to do something wrong in your life. A positive mind – set is necessary for everyone. A positive person will never say anything bad about anyone.

If you want to be a good person who has nice reputation and respected by everyone then you should remember these things, you should remember that whatever you are going to say, it will reflects your character instantly. Your words make your image in front of your audience. And your words make your audience judgemental about you. If you spread positivity then you will get back good feedback and it makes you a reputational and respected person.